Your heart can be crushed from expectations- I had every right to believe that I was making a major purchase in 2022. All the requirements were in place on my part and then the economy took a turn. I was in control of the requirements however I was not in control of the economy or inflation. The disappointment was crushing. Things outside of our control can hurt us however as we choose to walk with God, He will make His presence, strength and comfort known because He is faithful. From this you gain an even larger capacity to walk with Him through hard, disappointing situations and eventually you will grow to the point where you will not question His motives or His love. Always trust that God's timing is perfect. According to Martha, (John 11) Jesus was late and if He had not of been late Lazarus might still be alive. It was expected that if He met the needs of so many others surely, He would meet the needs of this family too. Even though Jesus knew Lazarus' sickness was not unto death and that it would glorify God the family did not, and they suffered disappointment. The testing of our faith is not a denial of God's love or presence and as it has been said, "God's delays are not a denial. Its left up to us to trust the reliability, timing and character of God even when we cannot track His plan. If you will allow it God can and will get the glory out of your seemingly dead situations. You can go from crushed expectations to an explosion of God's goodness, only believe.
Take a good look at wealth-There is much ta- I had every right to believe that I was making a major purchase in 2022. All the requirements were in place on my part and then the economy took a turn. I was in control of the requirements however I was not in control of the economy or inflation. The disappointment was crushing. Things outside of our control can hurt us however as we choose to walk with God, He will make His presence, strength and comfort known because He is faithful. From this you gain an even larger capacity to walk with Him through hard, disappointing situations and eventually you will grow to the point where you will not question His motives or His love. Always trust that God's timing is perfect. According to Martha, (John 11) Jesus was late and if He had not of been late Lazarus might still be alive. It was expected that if He met the needs of so many others surely, He would meet the needs of this family too. Even though Jesus knew Lazarus' sickness was not unto death and that it would glorify God the family did not, and they suffered disappointment. The testing of our faith is not a denial of God's love or presence and as it has been said, "God's delays are not a denial. Its left up to us to trust the reliability, timing and character of God even when we cannot track His plan. If you will allow it God can and will get the glory out of your seemingly dead situations. Crushed Cursh. Curs. Cur. Cu. C.
step of showing gratitude for what we already have and planning to add layers of wealth to that foundation by researching and using what works for you. On my journey I have learned that one of the definitions of “wealth” comes from the word “Chayil” meaning -strength, efficiency, wealth, able, activity, great forces, goods, host, might, riches, substance, and army further probably a force, whether of men, means or other resources. In Deuteronomy 8, it notes, God gives us the power or ability to get wealth. I believe the income He blesses us with makes us a firm or an established force in the Earth, this creates the capacity and means to ultimately be ready as a distribution center of resources and money that solves problems, give access, answer for things from one generation to the next and extends its reach as far as other nations.
Kill it-This might sound harsh but it is true, you need to kill the habits that are killing your success and keeping you from your next level.
The life you dream of-Your dream life will require maturity; you cannot maintain it haphazardly.
Occupational hazards-Your job cares about you to the degree that you can come to work and perform. Your mental and physical wellness is priceless, and it is your job to always protect and maintain it, especially at work. Burn out is real, do all you can to prevent it from happening but if by chance you find yourself burned out, please do not think a hot bath is going to cure it. The World Health Organization says, “Burn-out is a syndrome conceptualized as resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed. It is characterized by three dimensions:
feelings of energy depletion or exhaustion.
increased mental distance from one’s job, or feelings of negativism or cynicism related to one's job; and
reduced professional efficacy.
I believe that you can be burned out from work and ministry. Here are some ways to recover:
Discuss work/ministry problems with a therapist
Use your sick leave or vacation time
Explore less stressful positions or tasks within your company/ministry for a time
Take regular breaks
Use mindfulness techniques
Set regular prayer time and regular time to read your Bible
Eat a healthy diet
Get plenty of exercise
Practice healthy sleep habits
Consider taking a vacation
Inner Circles-Sometimes people around you are not really rooting for you or your dreams. It is a hard concept to digest but it is true. This calls for a re-evaluation of relationships and a prioritization of those relationships in your life. One of the most important goals around this matter is to remain loving, remain kind but be aware, be discreet and keep moving forward. Do not enable people to treat you badly. Stop putting energy into relationships that are not reciprocal. If the relationship is worth the work all parties involved need to put in the work.
Personal Honesty-It takes you being honest with yourself to stop cycles that sabotage your success, no one else can do this for you.
Leadership-Every leader should have times of reflection, coaching and therapy on a regular basis, no matter the kind of leader. By not doing so leaders can put themselves and those they serve at risk for unnecessary problems and pain not to mention lack of unmet outcomes. Serving others from a position of unhealed pain, immaturity or burnout can derail the purpose of a team quickly. Leaders should not only look for emotional maturity in others, but they should also consistently work towards embodying this quality for their mental health and the wellness of their organization or team as well. Emotional intelligence helps leaders diagnose and solve problems in an empathetic way, retains qualified/skilled talent, raises revenue, improve culture and raise work or organizational success.
You have enough time; you need to decide-You are one decision away from your next level of success. Once you decide on something put the consistent work in to accomplish the goal. Remember: When setting goals there are two categories:
A controllable goal where you have complete influence An uncontrollable goal is where the outcome is dependent on someone or something else other than you
Do not set goals that are out of your control, otherwise you are setting yourself up for an emotional roller coaster. Check out my blog on breaking cycles-http://bit.ly/3jLviNy
Instead, discover what you want and set goals around the habits and systems that help you get there.
Expected end-I knew early in the year that I would need to have what I call “long faith” meaning believing and trusting God over long periods of time with what looks like no end in sight. I knew this because one of God’s instructions to me at the beginning of 2022 was to “pray through” based off a verse in Luke 18 where Jesus urges the disciples to always pray and not give up. This verse encouraged me throughout the year to keep going when it felt as though discouragement was clouding my prayers and God was not hearing me. The woman in the Luke 18 persistently requested justice and eventually an unjust judge succumbed to her persistence. Meditating on this verse I knew change would take place for me. More than that I knew that by being consistent in prayer God’s presence and peace would carry me through some extremely hard spots in 2022. Another verse I clung to was Psalm 126, “When the Lord restored the fortunes of Zion, we were like those who dreamed.” When being the operative word in the verse for me. I knew that my troubles would have an expiration date, and with the help of the Lord I would also outgrow the uncomfortable spots in my character while in difficult situations. It would be up to me to remember that all while sowing in tears God had an expected end already in mind for me to reap in joy.
Sit down-Learn to sit in the blessings God provides. Many times, we are so used to struggle that we build our lives around struggle mindsets and coping mechanisms without even realizing it and it takes a godly revelation to realize this is how you have been living. Once you receive the revelation keep the valuable lessons learned from those tough times and move on to living in your new revelation(s). Practice makes perfect so start practicing how to steward and own your blessings.
Sabotage- Stop sabotaging yourself! Renew your mind about who you are -you are made in the image of God! Our circumstances and history would lead us to believe we are not worthy of God’s best, but this is simply a lie. Life sometimes sets us up to believe that we are always deserving of just enough. Now there is nothing wrong with just enough and we should be grateful for whatever portions we are allotted in life. I am speaking of being conditioned to believe that we are not worthy for more than enough. When we believe we are not worthy our belief system is inherently hindered from prospering so we must reconstruct our belief system to be a benefactor of the destiny, favor, and blessings this life has for us. Sabotage means to deliberately destroy, damage, or obstruct (something), especially for political or military advantage. We sabotage ourselves by living in unfruitful cycles, mindsets, lies and comfort zones. Sabotage keeps you from receiving good. Living like this can cause us to get to the front door of an opportunity and make a decision that will launch us backwards instead of forward. While we regret the sabotage, poor decisions, and consequences, we do not have to just regret -we can recover! How can we do this? Decide that you are not a slave to your past and unrenewed mind but that you are child of God designed to live the abundant life that God has designed for you to live. Decide that while fear may be present you are not going to allow it to navigate your life-get in the driver’s seat! We can do away with destroying ourselves by living as who God created us to be and receiving what He has for us. We do this by shining as God has called us to without shrinking to make others comfortable. Decide that you are going to love yourself, have compassion on yourself, forgive yourself, allow yourself to heal and grow into your most evolved self with the help of God’s Word and His Spirit.
Rest-When you are prompted to rest, take time to rest. When you are tired, when you are mentally or emotionally drained- rest! Do not keep pushing yourself to live up hustle culture. Instead align with God and receive His grace to do what you need to do daily. Adjust your schedule and take things off your plate as needed. Allowing yourself a rest does not equate to laziness, there can be no restoration without rest. Rest physically and mentally so that you can recover with strength to live your life full instead of running on fumes or worse on empty.
I learned so much in 2022 but these were the major themes. I hope they add value to your journey. Reverend Katherine Dabay says, "Rest is not only about recharging; rest is about spending time with God. When we invite God into our recreation, God uses it for our re-creation: to heal us, to remind us of God’s promises to ground us in who God has made us to be. Rest is holy.
I pray God crown your year with an abundant harvest, give you the wisdom to build according to His plan, the understanding to establish it and the knowledge to fill the plan with precious and excellent wealth.
Your Virtual Coach, Kim
References: World Health Organization, Katherine Dabay, Jess Ekstrom, Merriam Webster
Psalm 24 and 65
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